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Journaling saved my life
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Journaling saved my life (includes journal writing prompts)

Journaling saved my life

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again.

Journaling saved my life.

When I couldn’t speak my truth, I wrote it.

I always had trouble talking. Some would call it being “shy.” Many thought I didn’t have anything to say.

But I did.

I was just so overwhelmed by my surroundings and my thoughts and emotions were so strong that my mind felt constantly bombarded.

My journal then became the place to process all this stuff going on.

When I was having panic attacks on the regular writing helped me get through it.

When my addictions got the best of me, I found my way back to myself by way of my journal.

How?

Because it allowed me to identify what was going on within and around me. Self-awareness is the key to changing anything about ourselves. If we don’t have a clue why we’re feeling the way we are, there isn’t any (healthy) way to release it.

Some people can talk to others, but because I was (and am) so sensitive I had trouble telling the difference between my own thoughts and feelings and those from the people around me. I had to process everything in solitude.

For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me, but I’m just an introvert.

Some might also call it being an empath.

Whatever you want to call it, it was unbearable during my younger years because I didn’t know how to manage it.

Which you would soon discover if you were to read any of the 20+ journals I have stacked in my closet.

But I digress…

The reason I’m sharing this with you is because I want to encourage you to find your “thing.”

You know, the thing that keeps you going.

The place you feel you can be unapologetically you.

Where you don’t have to censor your thoughts or your feelings or emotions. A place where you can say screw the filter, THIS IS WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.

We get so caught up in what other people think about us or what we believe others think of us that we lose pieces of ourselves.

This quote comes to mind:

“What other people think of me is none of my business.” -Wayne Dyer

But what you think of you is completely your business and it’s up to you to decide how you feel about yourself.

You have the right to feel how you feel.

More importantly, you have the right to be who you are.

It’s up to you to find the “you” you want to be.

Some questions to ask yourself:

When do I feel I am most myself?

How do I really feel about this situation vs. what I would say if someone asked me?

Where am I not being true to myself?

My favorite journaling people & their websites:

Nathan Ohren @ Write4Life

Mari McCarthy @ CreateWriteNow

Lynda Monk @ Creative Wellness Works

 

So tell me…

What’s your thing? Let’s get the conversation going!

What not to say to someone who self-injures.
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How to REALLY Help Someone Who Struggles with Self-Harm

Recently, I’ve had a lot of people (therapists, counselors, support group facilitators, parents, etc.) ask me about how to help someone who self-harms.

So, here are some things you should know.

  • Most cutters are highly intelligent and extremely sensitive.
  • Many don’t do it in an effort to end their life, but rather, to end their pain.
  • There are, unfortunately, people and websites that are pro self-harm (this is NOT one of those websites and I am NOT one of those people).
  • Self-mutilation is an addiction, and should be treated as such.

And here are some materials to use. Starting with, the top 5 things to never say to someone who self-injures:

What not to say to someone who self-injures.

Next, 5 things you should say instead:

What to say to someone who self-injures.

Take time to know and understand what the person who is cutting is going through.

And listen.

See this person as whole and send your love and compassion. I promise, he or she will be able to feel it.

If you are the one who is self-mutilating, I made this for you to print out (therapists and support group facilitators you can print these out to use in your sessions):

Self-harm worksheet

It’s okay to ask for help. In fact, please do so. Don’t keep it to yourself. I know you feel like no one understands you, but they never will if you’re not willing to let them. Believe it or not, the people around you are just as scared as you are.

Here’s mine as an example:

Tell me you love me.

Here’s another one for you to print out and use:

Things to do instead of cutting

It’s important to know what to do when you feel the urge to cut. When you’re in that state you’re not always rational so having something physical to have on you or in a place where you can see it will remind you that you have other options available.

Here’s mine (feel free to steal some ideas from it):

My list of things to do instead of cutting.

That’s it for now. I hope this is useful!

As always I welcome your comments and suggestions.

A raw, real morning rant by Carrie Leigh Sandoval
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A Raw, REAL, Unedited Morning Rant + Two Journaling Prompts

A raw, real morning rant by Carrie Leigh Sandoval

This morning (actually yesterday morning), I decided to do some free writing journaling. Or is it free-writing?

And by decided I mean I woke up and the words started pouring out of me.

That hadn’t happened in a while and I was really grateful it did.

I love journaling prompts, but sometimes I just need to write, you know?

Here goes my rant (sloppily hand-written in my journal and lovingly transferred to the blog for your reading pleasure):

I woke up from strange dreams of different planets and things I’d never seen. I woke up with these words in my mind:

“The world around me is in chaos, but I am at peace.”

I’ve been writing “how to” articles and all about the keys to this and that, but those mean nothing if you can’t connect with me.

I don’t want to be another person in your life who talks at you. I don’t want to be someone who you feel less than or better than.

I want us to be equals.

I don’t want to feel like I have to follow all the rules to be accepted.

And I don’t want “being accepted” to be the goal of anything. For anyone.

I don’t want censorship to dictate my way of speaking.

I don’t want to be a robot.

I don’t want to be perfect.

I just want to be me.

The me that knows I’m still in tact when I make mistakes.

The me that doesn’t follow all the rules.

The me that doesn’t strive to fit in.

The goal of life is not to blend in, it’s to stand out.

It’s to become more of who we are, not anyone else.

This is how I feel right now.

This is who I am right now.

This is my truth RIGHT NOW.

And I want to know yours.

I want to hear it.

I want to read it.

And I know there’s a part of you saying, “no you don’t.”

“No one cares about me.”

“I’m not that important.”

But you are important.

You do matter.

Your words, your actions, but most importantly your way of being – matters.

Despite your circumstances, your diagnoses, your past, whatever it may be. Despite whatever voice plays in your mind like a broken record.

I wish I could convey this so you’d never forget it.

You are worthy of ALL the GOOD this world has to offer.

You are worthy of connection to the highest part of you.

You are worthy of connection to other people.

You are enough.

And as I write this, I cry because I feel it too.

I don’t think you need any more “tips” or advice.

I have this feeling all you really need to know is, you’re not alone.

You’re not alone.

 

 

Feel like journaling today? Here are two journaling prompts to get you started.

What do I need to express today?

What do I want to experience more of in my life?