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A raw, real morning rant by Carrie Leigh Sandoval
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A Raw, REAL, Unedited Morning Rant + Two Journaling Prompts

A raw, real morning rant by Carrie Leigh Sandoval

This morning (actually yesterday morning), I decided to do some free writing journaling. Or is it free-writing?

And by decided I mean I woke up and the words started pouring out of me.

That hadn’t happened in a while and I was really grateful it did.

I love journaling prompts, but sometimes I just need to write, you know?

Here goes my rant (sloppily hand-written in my journal and lovingly transferred to the blog for your reading pleasure):

I woke up from strange dreams of different planets and things I’d never seen. I woke up with these words in my mind:

“The world around me is in chaos, but I am at peace.”

I’ve been writing “how to” articles and all about the keys to this and that, but those mean nothing if you can’t connect with me.

I don’t want to be another person in your life who talks at you. I don’t want to be someone who you feel less than or better than.

I want us to be equals.

I don’t want to feel like I have to follow all the rules to be accepted.

And I don’t want “being accepted” to be the goal of anything. For anyone.

I don’t want censorship to dictate my way of speaking.

I don’t want to be a robot.

I don’t want to be perfect.

I just want to be me.

The me that knows I’m still in tact when I make mistakes.

The me that doesn’t follow all the rules.

The me that doesn’t strive to fit in.

The goal of life is not to blend in, it’s to stand out.

It’s to become more of who we are, not anyone else.

This is how I feel right now.

This is who I am right now.

This is my truth RIGHT NOW.

And I want to know yours.

I want to hear it.

I want to read it.

And I know there’s a part of you saying, “no you don’t.”

“No one cares about me.”

“I’m not that important.”

But you are important.

You do matter.

Your words, your actions, but most importantly your way of being – matters.

Despite your circumstances, your diagnoses, your past, whatever it may be. Despite whatever voice plays in your mind like a broken record.

I wish I could convey this so you’d never forget it.

You are worthy of ALL the GOOD this world has to offer.

You are worthy of connection to the highest part of you.

You are worthy of connection to other people.

You are enough.

And as I write this, I cry because I feel it too.

I don’t think you need any more “tips” or advice.

I have this feeling all you really need to know is, you’re not alone.

You’re not alone.

 

 

Feel like journaling today? Here are two journaling prompts to get you started.

What do I need to express today?

What do I want to experience more of in my life?

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3 Journaling Prompts to Encourage Self-Discovery

Self-discovery is one of the main goals of journaling. When I first began writing it was because I felt lost and had no idea who I was or who I wanted to be. It helped me connect back to the part of me that was greater, wiser and more confident than my thoughts and circumstances.

There is one constant in your life.

It’s you.

Other people will come and go, but you remain.

Which is why taking time to truly know yourself is one of the best things you can do. When you know how you operate, you’re less affected by what’s going on outside of you. You become more of a deliberate creator and conscious choice-maker.

Some people say journaling and other forms of self-care are selfish. I disagree. When we take care of ourselves and take time to know what makes us smile, laugh and cry we have more to give.

Which reminds me of this quote:

“The greatest gift you can ever give another person is your own happiness”
― Esther Hicks

So, do yourself a solid (you deserve it!) and take 30 minutes to journal today. Here are a few prompts to get you started.

Journal Time!

Write down and answer the following questions:

What makes me laugh?

What opens my heart?

What makes me want to be alive?

What did you learn about yourself today? How will you use this information to help others? Please leave your comments below!

journaling prompts for teenagers
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3 Fear-Crushing Journaling Prompts for Young Dreamers, Visionaries and Future Superstars

journaling prompts for teenagers

This article is for people of all ages (teenagers, parents, etc.) who are on a mission to make a really big impact in our world. It’s a personal journal entry turned public with added journaling prompts for you to explore.

 

For all the things I  think I can’t do or haven’t done, there are so many things I can do and I have done.

I’ve sent out 100s of emails. I’ve made more phone calls in the past year than I have in my entire life. I’ve talked to people. I’ve opened up. I’ve shared my story and have had the opportunity to hear others’.

I’ve done so many things I thought I’d never do.

I’ve gotten a lot of “nos.”

I’ve gotten a few “yeses.”

I’m still going.

I haven’t fizzled out.

 

Maybe it’ll take 5 years to have the kind of success I want, but the way to reach it faster is not by beating myself up. But rather, to keep looking for evidence of my success in every moment of every day.

I can focus my attention on what I am doing well.

I can choose to focus on who I am becoming.

I can choose to focus on the progress I’ve made.

And the people I’ve inspired.

 

Doing those things brings me closer to having what I want than focusing on what I think I’m doing wrong.

I’m sure I’m making a lot of mistakes – some I’m probably not even aware of.

But the more I fear making mistakes, the more power they have over me.

Even in the moments I feel weak, part of me is strong.

Even in the moments I feel hopeless, there is still hope.

And I find it by looking.

I find it by remembering I’ve found it before.

I find it by reminding myself I always manage to land on my feet.

Somehow.

 

And I find it by realizing it’s not as far as I think.

The answers are right in front of me.

And in fact, they are within me.

 

And they might not always look the way I thought they would.

I might not always feel the way I’d hoped I’d feel.

But if I listen closely…

And if I love myself even when the answers are different than I thought they’d be…

That’s when I’m free.

 

And then I remember freedom is all I’ve been wanting the entire time.

But here’s the secret:

It didn’t come from any outer circumstance.

 

Freedom is always within us, waiting to be acknowledged.

 

I understand I don’t have to push so hard.

I get there is a part of me that does allow ease and grace. And just because it’s not the dominant part in this moment, does not mean I can’t choose to find comfort in knowing it’s there.

For every part of me that feels something unpleasant, there’s a part eager to rise to the surface – the one who knows life is meant to be joyful.

That I deserve to feel balanced and in alignment.

It’s okay to trust.

The acceptance I want first comes from accepting myself.

Peace is just a breath away.

And freedom doesn’t cost a thing.

 

And now, I feel complete.

I am whole.

This is where I want to be.

 

So now, it’s your turn to write. Think of something in the future you’re worried about – an upcoming event or interaction with someone.

#1 Write about your fears and the worst thing that could possibly happen.

#2 Write out the best possible outcome.

#3 Come up with something even better.

 

Thanks so much for reading. Please leave your comments and insights in the box below!

Brain drain
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How to Drain Your Brain and Stay Sane

Brain drainIf you tend to overanalyze things, this post is for you.

If you become easily overwhelmed by the amount of thoughts and choices in your noggin, this is also for you.

If you’re ready to let some perfectionism go, this is DEFINITELY for you.

I’m going to share something I (have to) use on a regular basis. My thoughts race so bad sometimes and the more I “try” to make it stop or “try” to organize them into something coherent, the louder they become.

And so I surrender.

Not to the contents of my mind, but to the situation. I understand it’s time to take a break because something else is going on.

And now it has my attention.

Thankfully, this happens less and less. And I think it’s because the thoughts, or rather the part of myself that identifies with these thoughts is just not as needy as she used to be.

Doing a “brain drain” as I call it has become an important part of my self care.

It’s simple. Just write everything out of your brain and onto a piece of paper. If you’re not a fan of using actual paper, I highly recommend you do so at least for this exercise.

It doesn’t have to make sense. It doesn’t have to be nice. It doesn’t have to make you or anyone else happy.

It’s just to get everything out of the way so there will be space for something new to come through.

It could just be:

“This sucks. I don’t want to be doing this. Bananas. Bagels. Wow I haven’t eaten a bagel in a long time. Bagel. Bagel. Bagel. Barf bag. Banana. Bears.”

But decide upon an amount of time beforehand and don’t stop writing until your time’s up. I guarantee you will feel a little better and maybe even laugh at some of the ridiculousness of it all.

That’s it.

It’s easy.

It’s fun.

And if you set your intention beforehand to feel clearer by the time you’re done, it’ll be even better.

Let me know how it goes and feel free to share some random thoughts with me in the comments box below.

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5 Negativity Releasing, Happiness Inducing Journaling Prompts

Happiness was once something I only dreamed of.
I didn’t know what I wanted to be, do or have.
I just knew I wanted to be happy.
Sometimes I wouldn’t even allow myself to dream of it.

Fear of disappointment.
Fear of success.
Fear of change.
And unbearable doubt plagued my mind.

If you would have told me 10 years ago that by the time I was 26 I’d be happily married, with an amazing son, a career, a beautiful home and that I’d be living a life of joy…

I would have told you to F off.

I never believed I could be happy.
I had so many beliefs around happiness that blocked me from having it.

Beliefs that I’ve learned how to let go of and I want to let you know you can too.

It is always a matter of choice.

Today’s journaling prompts will show you how to begin to identify some of your limiting beliefs so you can begin to open up to more joy in your life.

That is, if you choose.

JOURNAL TIME!

Write down and answer the following:

What do I believe about being happy?
What stops me from being happy?
How will I know when I am truly happy and fulfilled?
Where am I willing to allow more happiness into my life?
How will my life be different if I choose to experience happiness on a more regular basis?

 

Happy journaling! And as always please share your thoughts/feelings/insights in the comments box below.

p.s. As of TODAY, I am officially a certified life coach! If you want to break free from self sabotage and discover YOUR joy and purpose, go here to set up a consultation with me.

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Let’s Talk About Suicide

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Today my husband Alex and I participated in a local walk for suicide prevention. One of my biggest realizations? Not many people want to talk about it. And not many people care about it until it’s too late.

I would like to be part of a movement which changes this. One that says, “Let’s talk about it. Let us understand it so we can do something about it.”

And so…

To all the people who have ever wanted to end their life:

The ones who think they’re a waste of space.
A lost cause.

To those who have given up on the world.
Who have lost hope.

You are not alone.

I was insane.
Maybe I still am.
But I’d rather be insanely honest with myself,
Than a liar.
I’d rather be me.

I’d rather tell you that thoughts of suicide still creep in from time to time.
Because it makes the truth and importance of my words much greater.
My voice is louder than the voices of the past.
My heart is stronger.
My mind is clearer.

There is hope.
There is help.
People might tell you you’re crazy,
But not nearly as often as you tell it to yourself.

Don’t believe the voice that says you don’t matter.
But don’t try to pretend it isn’t there.
Instead say proudly, “I hear you,
But I am not you.”

“You are just a part of me.
And yes you’re really loud.
And yes I know you want my attention.
I love you.”

All this part of you wants is love.
Acknowledgment.
A precious moment of silent sincerity.
In which all that is required is a sigh of relief.

We’ve got to take time to celebrate ourselves.
And each other.
And all the annoying details and differences in between.

I don’t know why people wait to celebrate others lives until they’re dead.

Find a reason to celebrate your life right now.

Journal time. Grab something to write with and on and…

Make a list of at least 20 things you love about your life.

 

Today, reach out to someone who might need some encouragement. Be an uplifter. And allow others to uplift you. When you allow others to help you, you help them feel good too.

It’s not about being perfect.

It’s about being you.

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Drop Everything

dropeverything

And dance.

Then journal about it if you want to.

Just enjoy being alive.

Because you can.

And you deserve to.

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Being vs. Doing

Let today be less about doing, and more about being.

Let it be more about remembering who you are and why you’re here.

Just let it be.

Stillness births new ideas greater than action. Do take action, but make sure that you are calm, you are cool and that you’re doing it because you want to. And if it is something you don’t want to do, but know you have to, ask yourself this: What do I need to remind myself of in order to feel better about this task? What can I choose to focus on that feels a little bit better than just dreading it?

Patience.

That’s what I need more of.

Patience with myself. With the world. With the way that everything is unfolding.

I’m learning it.

Trust.

Trusting myself. Trusting that all is well. Trusting that I can do this.

I’m growing it.

Reminding.

Reminding myself of what I’ve accomplished. What it took for me to be able to accomplish it. And knowing without a shadow of a doubt that I can do it again.

Yes, I can.

Because I want to. And that wanting and that desire is greater than the stress. It’s greater than the fears that are surfacing. It is greater than my old ways, old beliefs, old…stuff.

I am being.

The absolute best version of myself that I can be.

JOURNAL TIME!

Write down and answer the following questions:

What do I need to do when I’m starting to feel overwhelmed?
What activities most nurture my patience?
How can I accept this situation + learn from it?
How can I accept myself?

 

When you’re done, take some deep breaths and wrap your mind around this:

All is well. <3 <3 <3

Bonus: Make a “to be” list, rather than a “to do” list and share it here! Who do you choose to be today?

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Love Letters and Long Goodbyes (A Journal Time Exercise)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8J74Md_Ipjs

Adin wanted to announce that today is Journal Time. And he’s pretty cute, so I said okay.

So the title of this is super emo, huh?

Shrug.

Over the past couple weeks, all of these old memories (good and bad) have been surfacing.

I started thinking about all the people I’ve ever crossed paths with and I felt a deep sense of

love and gratitude.

The first I love yous.

Last goodbyes.

I wondered if they were experiencing the same thing.

It was nostalgia galore.

It was as though my body was saying goodbye to each person.

Each memory.

They’ll always be there.

But, I’ve committed to this new me.

The one who doesn’t drink or do drugs.

The one who doesn’t cut herself.

The one who doesn’t need you to accept her.

The one who instead meditates every day.

The one who wrote a book.

The one who is following her dreams.

And refuses to give up.

That’s who I want to be.

My stake is in the ground.

My heart, illuminated.

I’m not afraid to say goodbye to the past.

I love you.

Goodbye.

 

Are you ready to get nostalgic with me? Grab a journal (or a piece of paper or whatever you kids write on these days) and begin by writing down these questions:

If today were my last day on this planet who would I still have something to say to?

What would I say to this person or these people?

 

After answering these questions, write a letter to each person. Tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them thank you. Tell them you’re sorry. Whatever you need to say, say it. The universe will deliver these letters energetically whether you send them or not. The person will feel it. And you’ll know. And they’ll know. That it’s time to move on. It’s time to take back the parts of yourself you’ve given away. And give back the parts you’ve taken. We all deserve to live full lives as whole people.

And that’s exactly what writing these letters will begin to do.

If you’ve feeling extra brave and you feel like you need to send these letters, by all means do it.

Above all, have fun.

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Al Einstein, You Rule.

You know when something totally awesome and unexpected happens and it feels like it’s almost to good to be true?

And then the ol brain kicks in and says it is too good to be true.

And proceeds to do everything in its power to convince you that good things aren’t happening.

Yeah.

Then you also have those moments where you completely take in and allow the good feeling to envelope you.

I prefer that.

But there is a part of me that does not.

I call her fear.

She’s afraid to let that love in.

So, how do we convince fear that everything is just fine?

 

First, pay close attention to how you’re feeling. She (or he) will creep up on you. I’m not saying this to scare you, but to reassure you that you have a choice. Find a way to love yourself anyway.

Second, when you realize what your thoughts are and how they’re making you feel, make a decision. You can decide to continue to have the thought or you can look for one that feels a little better. What will bring you a sense of relief and put you at ease in this moment? What do you really need right now?

Third, do something different.

I believe it was Albert Einstein who said:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Makes sense right?

We got to where we are because of the thoughts we’ve had. Those thoughts became beliefs. A belief is just a thought that we think over and over again.

Which means, we aren’t doomed.

It’s an addiction.

A pattern of thought.

Yet, as we choose and keep choosing who we want to be and how we want to feel, we become stronger. Our brains may take a little while longer to catch up with our dreams.

The only way to help fear out is to love her (or him!) anyway.

 

It is so important to have a plan in place when you become aware that you’re having thoughts that make you feel like punching things. And if you haven’t found the perfect formula, well I don’t think anyone has.

The best formula is knowing that you’re strong enough, good enough, smart enough, capable enough to find a solution. And maybe the only solution is knowing.

 

So your JOURNAL TIME exercise today is to write about what you have done that has worked for you.

What is helping you grow?

What makes you feel good?

What can you do to ensure you are focusing more upon that?

What will you do to make yourself feel better next time you’re aware you’re in a negative thought pattern?

 

For extra credit:

Post in the comment section how you think continuing to focus on what IS working for you will impact you.