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Journals have feelings too
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[Day 6] My Books!

Journals have feelings too

Hello from beautiful Denver, Colorado! I’m here to learn more about an addictions counselor certification program I’m interested in. I’ll let you know how it goes!

Wash Park

Last night my sister took me to Washington park and I was able to capture this beautiful sunset.

Today is day 6 of Amethyst Mahoney’s 30 day magic up your blog challenge. My topics to choose from are:

1) Your favorite book, and why it’s your fave. If you can’t choose just one (and who can?) then give us a run-down of your top 5 or 10 Favorite books.

OR

2) Let us know about a book you’ve written.

I’m going to do a little bit of both. What’s cool is as I was laying in bed wondering what I was going to write about, I was thinking about how many people have shared with me how much they love my writing (thank you). And so I was planning on dropping a line about the books I’ve written in today’s post.

Impeccable timing as always, Universe.

There’s my first book, Journals Have Feelings Too which has been read and loved by teens and adults alike. It’s a quick, but highly impactful and practical guide to journaling, why it works and what to write about.

Every chapter includes several journaling prompts (aptly named “JOURNAL TIME”) where readers are encouraged to put the book down and do some inward exploration.

It includes topics like “The Blabbering Brain” and “Finding Your Voice.” For someone like me, who had so many thoughts in her head she couldn’t formulate the words to speak, journaling became my go-to tool to unveil what was really going on in there, how I really felt and it allowed me to find and accept ALL who I am.

For highly sensitive people, alone time is essential. And I firmly believe journaling (alongside meditating and walking in nature) is one of the most therapeutic and necessary practices for such people.

Through the exercises in the book you learn:

  • How to differentiate between thoughts of the past and your truth – no one else’s
  • How to use journaling to create a new dialogue between you and the various parts of you in a non-invasive way
  • How to establish a regular writing practice that works for you
  • And a lot more

Journaling brings me the freedom I often used to look outside for. It helped me beat my addictions, stop taking responsibility for other people’s feelings and rebuild my identity so I could finally be who I wanted to be.

I love being able to share this with others. Here’s what people are saying:

“I also have really enjoyed reading her book, Journals Have Feelings Too and highly recommend it for both teens and parents alike. I applaud Carrie for her bravery and transparency in sharing her life trials and insights to help others in such a positive fashion. Thank you Carrie for all you do!!!” -Amy

“Using specific examples from her own struggles in life, Carrie makes quick connections to the reader and provides examples of the usefulness of journaling. Her openness and willingness to share her experiences throughout Journals Have Feelings Too helps readers to see the direct results of the journaling practices she puts forward. This concise writing leaves the reader with a surprisingly deep toolkit in a short period of time.” -Glenn

Fun fact: the entire book was written in a journal before being typed out

Onto book two.

Just last month I finished writing a chapter for my second book Behind the Mask: The Many Faces of Bullying which I co-authored among 24 other women. I’ll be receiving physical copies soon and it will be up on amazon by the end of the month.

My chapter is called “Bullying: Our Youth’s Cry for Connection.” I talk about how young people are acting out an inner battle they don’t know how to express and how their behaviors are just a side effect of the connection they are so craving – connection to themselves and others. And with all the technology and distractions they’ve lost the awareness they need make positive choices.

This chapter teaches adults how to connect and communicate with young people and be the strong and steady influencers they need to make healthy decisions and walk with their heads held high. It discourages the use of blame and shame and instead encourages exploration and resolution of the true problem.

I’m excited to see the whole book when it comes out and will update this post when I have the link.

Now, my favorite book.

As much as I love learning, I am a slow reader. Maybe slow isn’t the best word. I’m a very deliberate reader. I like to soak the words into my cells instead of just getting them into my head so I spend a lot of time reading one book at a time.

My favorite book to reference is The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. It gets right to the point.

I like books which help me simplify and calm my very over active mind. This puts me right into a heart space along with the book I’m currently reading, Soul Love by Sanaya Roman.

Other good ones:

The Power of Now

The Gifts of Imperfection

Loving What Is

Wise Mind Living

What about you? What’s your favorite book and why? Leave me a comment below!

self-worth in teenagers
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Helping kids connect to who they really are

In my last post, I mentioned “helping kids connect to who they really are” as an antidote for bullying.

I’d like to go a bit deeper into this today.

self-worth in teenagers

As adults who are interacting with young people, the best thing we can do is model healthy self-worth. When we are accepting ourselves, we interact with others from a place of love and empowerment. And when we demonstrate this to our kids, they get to see what healthy boundaries look like.

From a very young age we are taught to seek others’ approval and to always look outside for instruction and validation.

But what if we would have been taught early on to love ourselves first?

When we are in alignment, others can feel it and treat us differently. The following steps will not only allow you to connect to yourself, but you can use them to help others connect to themselves too.

1.Get in your body

We spend so much time in our head allowing our thoughts to dictate who we are. A belief is just a thought we think over and over again until we begin to accept it as truth. The more time you can spend in your body, the sooner you will be able to tell the difference between the you you’ve always thought you were and the you you really are.

The best and easiest remedy for getting into your body?

Breathe art

Imagine your breath filling every area of your body. Allow it to go all the way down into your feet until you feel a strong connection to the ground beneath you.

2.Notice, feel and express what you need to in order to feel better

We have a tendency to hold onto things because we are either in denial or feel we don’t have the right to feel what we feel. We’ve been told “you shouldn’t feel that way.” Truth is, you have every right to feel what you feel. Even if no one else has the same reaction or emotion come up in the same situation, you do. And it’s okay. Maybe you’re more sensitive. Maybe you’re just wired differently. Whatever the case, it’s alright. Just notice and be okay with whatever comes up.

Then, find a way to get it all out. Some suggestions:

  • Write
  • Walk
  • Do EFT (watch a quick into to EFT here)
  • Cry
  • Shake it out (like how puppies do after they’ve just had a bath)

The idea is to give yourself full permission to feel and express anything and everything you need to feel better.

3. Decide what kind of day you’d like to have

When you know what you want and focus on it with faith, your situation has to improve. You are a powerful creator and you create with your every thought. When you are in alignment and everything else is out of the way (or when you “get out of your own way”) anything is possible.

Imagine how you’d like your interactions with your friends and family to go. See yourself handling each situation with grace and ease as you know your own value and worth.

We so quickly and easily hand our power over to others, but we don’t have to.

You are powerful and you know exactly what you need to do.

When you know this and embody this, others will feel it. The people who are “bullying” you will leave you alone as if by magic.

What if all this was just to get you to see how amazing you are?

How has an unpleasant situation actually strengthened you as a person? Please share in the comments section below.