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Al Einstein, You Rule.

You know when something totally awesome and unexpected happens and it feels like it’s almost to good to be true?

And then the ol brain kicks in and says it is too good to be true.

And proceeds to do everything in its power to convince you that good things aren’t happening.


Then you also have those moments where you completely take in and allow the good feeling to envelope you.

I prefer that.

But there is a part of me that does not.

I call her fear.

She’s afraid to let that love in.

So, how do we convince fear that everything is just fine?


First, pay close attention to how you’re feeling. She (or he) will creep up on you. I’m not saying this to scare you, but to reassure you that you have a choice. Find a way to love yourself anyway.

Second, when you realize what your thoughts are and how they’re making you feel, make a decision. You can decide to continue to have the thought or you can look for one that feels a little better. What will bring you a sense of relief and put you at ease in this moment? What do you really need right now?

Third, do something different.

I believe it was Albert Einstein who said:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Makes sense right?

We got to where we are because of the thoughts we’ve had. Those thoughts became beliefs. A belief is just a thought that we think over and over again.

Which means, we aren’t doomed.

It’s an addiction.

A pattern of thought.

Yet, as we choose and keep choosing who we want to be and how we want to feel, we become stronger. Our brains may take a little while longer to catch up with our dreams.

The only way to help fear out is to love her (or him!) anyway.


It is so important to have a plan in place when you become aware that you’re having thoughts that make you feel like punching things. And if you haven’t found the perfect formula, well I don’t think anyone has.

The best formula is knowing that you’re strong enough, good enough, smart enough, capable enough to find a solution. And maybe the only solution is knowing.


So your JOURNAL TIME exercise today is to write about what you have done that has worked for you.

What is helping you grow?

What makes you feel good?

What can you do to ensure you are focusing more upon that?

What will you do to make yourself feel better next time you’re aware you’re in a negative thought pattern?


For extra credit:

Post in the comment section how you think continuing to focus on what IS working for you will impact you.



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Messy Ass Mess

When life gets messy, clean it up.

Duh, I know.

Hear me out for a sec though.

I clean up about 54638374 messes a day because I have a toddler who loves to make messes. He doesn’t think about the fact that he’ll have to clean it up.

He just stirs shit up. 

Some days I don’t feel like cleaning. Today though, I wasn’t giving any thought to it or putting any energy into it. I just picked up the toys and I was done.

Then I had the thought, “when life gets messy, clean it up.”

So many times I’ve focused on the “here we go again” of the process of picking up the pieces.

And so many times that has been counterproductive.

Counterproductive, yes.

But, easily resolved.

Life isn’t perfect.

I’m not perfect.

That’s nothing to get mad about.

I can get mad briefly if it’ll make me feel better, but when I focus on the improvement, or the fact that I didn’t stay angry quite as long or the fact that today was just a little easier than the day prior, I’m putting a welcome mat out, inviting more things into my life that are just a little better.

You know what you have to do. Don’t let what you haven’t done stop you. The moment you realize you’re beating the shit out of yourself, stop that shit.That made me chuckle.

Be a super hero.

Come to your own damn rescue.



And remember:

You are still lovable when…

You stumble over your words

When you don’t know what to say

When you don’t say anything at all

When you’re frustrated

When you’re angry

When no one is looking

When everyone is looking

When you’re being judged

When you’re judging yourself

When you feel hopeless


You are still lovable

When you don’t see it

When you can’t feel it

When there isn’t anyone there to remind you

feel your feelings
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If It’ll Make You Feel Better…

  • Have a fit
  • Get pissed off
  • Say UGHHH
  • Shake your fists
  • Write a damn blog post about it
  • Cry about it

Get it OUT! Your feelings need to be felt, it won’t take long for them to turn into something better as long as that’s what you’d like to happen. It won’t take long for the shit to turn back into happiness if that’s what you’re aiming for.

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Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

I stumbled upon this again and love it so much I decided to share it.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.